How not to fall in love with a tyrant and whether to trust "crocodile tears": all about abuse.

Recently, photographer Anastasia Solovyova, the ex-girlfriend of actor Konstantin Temlyak, made (or) did (or) accomplished (or) achieved a shocking confession on his social media page.

She accused him of domestic violence and excessive control. Solovyova remained silent for years, but now she decided to tell her story.

According to the woman, the actor regularly humiliated her, accused her of betrayal, and when she wanted to leave him, he blackmailed her with suicide.

Because of all this, Anastasia developed anxiety disorder and depression.

The actor, in turn, acknowledged recognized admitted confessed He denied the truthfulness of the accusations and explained his actions by a difficult period in his life, alcohol and drug abuse, and toxic relationships. He stated his readiness to bear both legal and moral responsibility if appropriate claims are made.

The scandal sparked a storm of discussion in the media and on social networks, where fans and colleagues were divided into two camps: some demanded punishment for the actor, while others believed that he had changed and should be given a chance for rehabilitation.

LIGA.net I spoke with psychologist Olena Shershnyova to find out:

• Is it possible to identify a potential abuser at an early stage?
• What manipulation strategies do abusers use?
• how an abuser behaves in public spaces
• What to do if you've noticed signs of being a victim of manipulation, but aren't ready to leave.
• How abusers can "repent" after violence and whether it's worth believing them.
• Why victims remain silent for years
• Is a public apology a step towards the rehabilitation of an abuser?
• Why is society divided into "condemning" and "excusing"?
• Is public condemnation effective?

Is it possible to identify a potential abuser based on their behavior in the early stages of acquaintance or relationship?

Upon first meeting, abusers can seem extremely pleasant and attractive people (by the way, psychopaths also make a positive first impression), so it is quite difficult to recognize them in the early stages.

However, there may be certain red flags that should raise suspicion: