Learn to praise yourself – why self-support is more important than self-criticism

When we make a mistake or fail to do something, we often hear a familiar voice in our heads: "You messed up again," "Others did a better job," "You're not trying hard enough.". Such self-criticism has become the norm for many, but is it really motivating? And doesn't it do more harm than good??

Psychologist Olena Shershniova, especially for LIGA.net, explained where the inner critic comes from, why self-support is not about "blind praise" but about self-love, and how to develop the ability to talk to yourself softer.

The inner critic is formed in childhood – and its voice is very loud

The habit of criticizing oneself is often formed in childhood, says psychologist Olena Shershniova.

- When parents constantly compare us with others, devalue our efforts, or point out our "lack of effort," an internal critic is formed in the subconscious. Then this voice accompanies a person throughout his or her life.